What happens when a christian sins?  How much does a christian have to sin before he has lost his salvation?  Are consequences to sin in a believer’s life experienced to lead that one to repentance and redemption?  Or to separate him from a Holy God?  At what point will he be turned over?  His mind darkened?  His heart hardened?  His spirit separated from God?

Sincerely,
Where’s The Line?

Dear Where’s The Line,

A christian loses his salvation when he returns to a lifestyle and mindset of wickedness.  It isn’t a matter of how much sin we commit, but the attitude we take toward God and sin.  When we no longer value what Christ has done for us and stop letting His Word guide our life, we crucify Him again and fall away (Heb 6:4-6).  When a christian sins, they should have godly remorse and sorrow (2 Cor 7:10) because they have offended their Redeemer.  A wicked heart is hardened against such sorrow.  We must always be careful to protect our heart from becoming rebellious (Heb 3:12).

It is impossible to say exactly at what point someone moves from saved to lost… but that just accentuates the importance of guarding our lives and minds by trusting in Christ’s Word (Jude 1:24).  Commit yourself to growing and bearing fruit for Christ, and you will always be safe (1 Pet 2:1-2).

I don’t know what to consider myself anymore.  I feel like I used to be/still am a christian, but I cannot come to terms with certain struggles:

1. If God is omnipotent, then how can we as human beings not be mad at Him for creating such an imperfect world?
2. Did God make a mistake with the world pre-flood?  Why would He destroy it all?  Couldn’t He see what it was to become?  Why wouldn’t He have created the second world the first time?
3. Does God really bless some people and not others?  Why do even the greatest christians give thanks to God for saving a baby’s life, or so-and-so’s life, while others have had to suffer terrible deaths?

Sincerely,
Questioning

Dear Questioning,

We will try and handle each of your concerns in turn:

1. God didn’t create the world imperfect.  When God finished the world, it was perfect (Gen 1:31).  All imperfection that we find in this world is a consequence of our sins (Gen 3:17-19).
2. The problem with the pre-flood world was a manmade one, not a God-made one.  Mankind’s thoughts were violent and sinful (Gen 6:5).  God could see what was happening, but He allowed us to have freewill… and He respects our freedom of choice.
3. God blesses all of mankind (Matt 5:43-48).  All blessings and joy are gifts from our Creator (Jas 1:17).  Death was introduced by sin (Gen 3:3).  When someone dies, that is a consequence of our sin (Rom 6:23)… not a failure on God’s part.

In the end, it is important to remember that God hasn’t failed us – He sent His own Son to give us life (Jhn 3:16).  We fail Him when we sin (Rom 3:23).

What is spiritual adultery?

Sincerely,
Looking For A Definition

Dear Looking For A Definition,

Spiritual adultery is when someone worships anything other than God.  In Ex 34:15-16, God specifically refers to worshipping false gods as harlotry.  A christian’s relationship to Christ is compared to a marriage (Eph 5:23).  If a christian turns to idolatry and rebellion, it is the same as defiling a marriage with adultery.  God is a jealous God and wants us all to Himself (Ex 34:14).

I’ve been Googling different religions ranging from Catholic to Egyptian and Mason to Branhamism.  Combined with how I was raised, I’m getting worried.  I definitely believe in Jesus Christ.  There’s just so much information on the history and origins, and everyone is right.  I need to be saved, and I just need your help.

Sincerely,
Ready To Obey

Dear Ready To Obey,

The Bible outlines five things you must do to become a christian. The question, “What must I do to be saved?” is the most important question any human can ever ask. Plenty of groups will pick and choose what they want to focus on. Many groups say that all you must do is “believe in your heart” and you will be saved – unfortunately, this is cherry-picking out one requirement and leaving the rest behind. We must always remember that the sum of God’s Word provides the truth (Ps 119:160). Belief is obviously an important element to salvation, but it is not the only condition. The Bible outlines five separate requirements for salvation, and all of them are necessary.

1. Hear the Word. Faith comes through hearing, and hearing comes through the Word of God (Rom 10:17). Until someone hears God’s Word, they are incapable of obeying it.
2. Believe the Word. It is impossible for someone to become a christian unless they believe that Jesus is the Savior and Son of God (Jhn 20:31, Acts 16:31, Jhn 3:16).
3. Repent of your sins. ‘Repent’ means to ‘change your mind’. That change of mind always involves a change of action as well. Repentance is when we change our mind about what is important and submit ourselves to Jesus and His Word. Repentance is a necessity of salvation (Mk 6:12, Lk 13:5, Lk 15:7).
4. Confess Jesus to others. If we have sworn our allegiance to Jesus, we must be prepared to publicly confess Him as our Lord. If we won’t confess Jesus before men, He won’t confess us before God (Matt 10:32-33, Lk 12:8-9).
5. Be baptized in the name of Jesus for salvation. Many groups baptize people, but very few baptize people for the right reasons. Baptism isn’t merely an “outward showing of an inward faith” or “for membership”. Baptism is what saves us (1 Pet 3:21). Baptism is the point where someone goes from being lost to saved because they are buried and resurrected with Christ (Rom 6:4-5). Baptism is the final requirement to become a christian (Acts 2:37-38, Mk 16:16, Acts 2:41). There is not a single example of someone becoming a christian without baptism. Baptism is just as necessary as the other four requirements.

After that, there remains nothing else but to find a faithful congregation to assemble with (Heb 10:24) that teaches God’s Word and God’s Word only (see “Finding a Church” for more details) and to continue to grow in knowledge and practice of God’s Word (1 Pet 2:2).  If you would like help finding a congregation in your area, please e-mail us at askyourpreacher@mvchurchofchrist.org, and we will happily put you in contact with a faithful church.

Will God forgive you if you use His name as a swear word?

Sincerely,
Watching My Tongue

Dear Watching My Tongue,

God is ready and willing to forgive us (Ps 86:5) of all sin, including foul language, if we are truly sorrowful, repentant (2 Cor 7:10), and committed to change (Matt 3:8).  Having said that, let’s talk a little bit about why using God’s name as a curse word is such a horrible thing.

All cursing is corrupt speech, but using the Lord’s name in vain is corrupt speech and blasphemy.  Eph 4:29 tells us to avoid all corrupt speech.  We need to avoid any and all language that sounds filthy or derogatory – this would include all swear words.  However, using the Lord’s name in vain is corrupt and irreverent.  God tells us to revere Him (Heb 12:28).  All sin will equally send you to hell (Rom 6:23), but there is an attitude of disrespect behind using the Lord’s name in vain that is especially troublesome.  The word ‘blasphemy’ means ‘to speak evil of’.  When we use God’s name as a cuss word or exclamatory term, we demote Him in our minds from the lofty position He deserves.  All our speech needs to be both clean and reverent, so that God’s name is spoken well of amongst His people (1 Tim 6:1).

I am forty-three and have been a christian since I was nineteen.  Since then, I have seen so much judgment, condemnation, hatred, and intolerance within the church towards other christians.  Finding a church and other christians that don’t make me want to gouge my eyes out has been impossible.  The Bible seems to be very contradictory, and God claims to be loving, but according to the Bible, He is more angry than loving.  My life has been horrible, and Christianity has brought no relief.  A friend of mine who is a Nichren Buddhist has introduced me to Buddhist chanting.  In one month, I have gotten more peace and relief from that than from being a christian.  I have always felt that my pain and prayers have fallen on deaf ears by God.  I am very conflicted and am standing at a crossroad.  I really don’t know what direction to take.  Why has Christianity been such a dissatisfying experience for me?  Why has every church member I have ever known been such a hypocrite and fake?  I would like to believe that God really wants us to be happy, but my personal experiences have not been the case.  What should I do?

Sincerely,
Ohm

Dear Ohm,

Corruption, hypocrisy, and scandal have been hallmarks of religion for as long as there has been religion… even in Jesus’ day.  The entire chapter of Matthew 23 is devoted to Christ lambasting the hypocrisy of the religious leaders of His day.  Paul warned that false teachers would commandeer Christ’s message for their own gain (2 Tim 4:3), and Peter sternly rebuked many of his contemporaries for their evil motives that would cause people (just like yourself) to doubt the truth because of the corruption of the messengers (2 Pet 2:1-2).  But there is hope!

Just like in Jesus’ day, there are pockets of people who actually practice what God preaches.  Most churches that proclaim Christ aren’t doing what the Bible teaches and are warping and twisting Jesus’ message (Gal 1:6-7), but there are congregations that truly do want to do only what the Bible says… people who are hearing and sincerely trying to do what God teaches (Jas 1:22-25).  We here at AYP remember that feeling of frustration with the religious confusion and hypocrisy.  We remember what it was like to feel frustrated to the point of giving up – and then we found the truth and people who love each other and love the Lord.

We can help you find a congregation in your area that can show you that there are sincere, honest people trying to serve God.  Christianity isn’t complicated when people do it God’s way.  Don’t give up just yet.  If you are willing to give it a try, we would be happy to help find a congregation in your area.  Just e-mail us at askyourpreacher@mvchurchofchrist.org.